A Strict Femdom is not necessarily a Mean Femdom and a Strict Femdom can also be sensual. There is a misconception that strict equates to mean and sensual cannot coexist with strict. This couldn’t be farther from the truth.
The truth is, every Femdom Mistress is different. Some are strict and mean, some are sensual but strict, some are a combination of all three. I am on of those Mistresses who is a combination of all three.
Strict Femdom vs. Mean Femdom
Oftentimes, you see Strict and Mean used together when talking about Femdom Mistresses. While it certainly is true that a Strict Femdom can be mean, Strict Mistreses are not necessarily mean. Sensual Mistresses can even be mean but it is not a common combination. As mentioned before, I believe any Femdom Mistress worth her salt can be sensual, strict, or mean when the situation calls for it.
If you don’t follow through and meet my expectations of you or if you are waffling on whether or not to do whatever it is, you’d best believe I will adopt a strict, firm tone until there is follow through. If there is not follow through on multiple occasions, perhaps even my mean side- yes, I most definitely DO have a Mean Mistress side- will appear. If you’re wondering how on earth this Sensual Mistress can also be mean, those who have experienced it can assure you I can be quite mean when necessary.
Sensual Mistress vs. Strict Mistress
I am naturally a Sensual Femdom but I’ve recently discovered how much I enjoy being a Strict Femdom when the situation warrants it. Some guys are put off by the idea of a Strict Femdom but I think that’s because they automatically assume she’ll be mean and yell a lot. This can be true for some, but in my experience, this isn’t always the case. I do NOT yell.
In fact, I believe being a Sensual Mistress has more to do with tone of voice and strict has more to do with expectations. Just because I am sensual in tone doesn’t mean I am not firm in my expectations of you. If, based on what you’ve told me you are looking for, I tell you I expect you to do something, it means I expect it. For this reason, I believe the whole “is she a sensual mistress or a strict mistress” question is a bit misleading. If someone asks me if I am sensual or strict, I say “yes!”, explaining what I’ve just explained here.
How Would You Describe the Difference Between Sensual and Strict?
When I think of a Mean Mistress, I think of a Mistress whose tone is sarcastic and personality a bit sadistic. That said, I am not a sadistic Mistress but I do use sarcasm often with disobedient slaves and with those who need extreme humiliation.
I’ve also found that the more a slave disobeys me, the more sadistic I can become. Much as submissives grow and expand their kinks and boundaries, Femdoms do the same. Being able to be a combination of sensual, strict, and mean as the occasion warrants, is the sign of a mature, well-rounded Mistress.
I’ve just explained that I believe sensual and strict are not mutually exclusive and even taken it a step further saying I believe sensual refers more to the Mistress’s tone of voice and style whereas strict isn’t necessarily a style, it’s more about being firm in expectations. That said, I do think there is a definite distinction between strict or sensual and being mean.
There you have it~ my belief that strict doesn’t always equal mean and sensual doesn’t equal “not strict.” How do YOU define the difference between sensual, strict, and/or mean? Drop a comment explaining your thoughts- I’d love to know!
Until next time, pets~
Your Intelligent Fantasies Mistres
That’s exactly what you deserve… ignore calls. Yes, I can and have been paid by worthless slaves like you to ignore them while I do whatever I want for the entire duration of the call!
Ha! You certainly have seen all of those sides over the years and I couldn’t agree more with this statement: “The real beauty of your power is you deciding what I need, always keeping me off balance so I never know exactly what to expect.”
Great post Mistress Hunter. I agree with You that strict doesn’t mean yelling. In fact i think yelling is a put off as i tend to think it mean’s the dominant really isn’t in control. Then again what does a slave like me know. It is true that the best can be both sensual and strict. Even though i prefer strict as some slaves need a strict touch.
In terms of humiliation and being mean. I think the most humiliating thing is being ignored. On every of my calls i have been ignored since November. That means i am not even worthy of being spoken to even when i pay.
Can you imagine getting paid for 3 hours and doing what you want Mistress Hunter?
Oh Dear Empress,
We have such a long history you of course can be all of the above and I love it.
I have always loved your sensual mistress side for years and years but have also GROWN to love your strict femdom nature. FEMDOM.
Yes, the more you know me the more facets of female supremacy power YOU must employ to exercise your control and I love it that way.
Recent Mean Mistress humiliation sessions were so beautiful weren’t they? You even warned me, be careful what you wish for… whore!
Whether you are showing me off to another mistress in a matter of fact tone, mocking and ridiculing, humiliating, laughing and just having a good time at my expense, using me for mere amusement or being strict and sometimes even ‘your mean’ I always wish for more, MORE Mistress-Empress-Huntress-Femdom-Humiliatrix-Enchatrix Hunter because you are so well-rounded!
The real beauty of it all, all these tools you have, is no one approach needs to be used on me all the time. No, no, no.
The real beauty of your power is you deciding what I need, always keeping me off balance so I never know exactly what to expect.
THAT keeps me coming- no wait- cumming back for more!
Yes Goddess Hunter, and I must say I do love beating my worthless balls for you. I also love all of the other degrading, humiliating, and nasty things you make me do on camera. I love being abused by you.
Hahahahaha…. you are sooooo right about that– as you know from experience! 😀
Yes, you certainly have seen both sides, haven’t you, Mr. Wimpy?!
Ha! Yes, you sure have suffered some of those extreme consequences you mention, haven’t you?! hahahahaha
One addition is if you do cross her, you better be wearing some ball armor because she will make you beat the hell out of your worthless balls and she will laugh while she watches.
Ms Hunter, this is another excellent and well reasoned article. I give you as a mistress 10 out of 10 for sensuality and another 10 out of 10 for strictness!
Well, let me tell you boys and girls, I will attest to the “Strict” side of Mistress Hunter, it is certainly not for the faint-hearted. Boy certainly knows how to push the buttons, of a hardcore humiliation pig like myself. I do not recommend crossing her, and if you do, be prepared to suffer some extreme consequences. I personally LOVE her Strict side, and I am sure many of you will too.