Now that Masturbation May is almost over, let’s talk about chastity. Men either seem to love it or they hate it and would never even consider trying it. Those who love it, love it for good reason. They have experienced a transformation that can only occur from being locked up for a period of time. Those who don’t even want to consider trying being locked up do not know what they are missing.
Chastity Cages versus Mental Chastity
A lot of guys say they want to try chastity but they don’t want to bother with wearing the chastity cage for various reasons. While this is technically possible for some, most think they can refrain from touching themselves in a sexual way but cannot actually do so.
In addition to the fact that there is nothing to really prevent touching in a sexual way, the penis is still able to get hard at will because there is nothing preventing it to do so. These two reasons alone are why I do not favor mental chastity.
Wearing a physical chastity device keeps the penis from getting hard and also makes it impossible to touch it in a sexual way. When the penis gets hard, thoughts change, attitude changes, sexual stirrings occur. Because of this, it is impossible to experience the true transformation experienced by those who actually wear a chastity device.
If you’re going to try chastity, then do it right and wear a cage. Otherwise, perhaps chastity isn’t really for you.
Properly Fitted Devices are a Must!
Chastity devices are not cheap though some are more expensive than others. There are plastic chastity cages, metal cages, and even silicone chastity devices. There are pluses and minuses to each of these types of cages so you need to weigh the options to decide which is best for you.
Whichever type of device you choose, it is crucial that it fits properly. A poorly fitted device can cause chaffing and blistering, pinching, and other types of pain and discomfort, so it is important to find the device that fits the best. Sometimes this means trying several devices and/or rings, etc., until you find the best fit. It may seem like a pain but it is crucial in order to have a successful chastity term.
Chastity Length
The length of time you should be in chastity depends on whether you’ve tried it before and how long you were locked up, if you have tried it. A lot also depends on the person and their habits. For some people, a few hours may seem like an eternity at first, and for others two weeks may not seem like very long.
My advice as a chastity beginner is to start small and work up to longer periods of time. If you’ve never been in chastity, starting out with even two weeks is too long. Starting with a day or two and then working up to longer periods of time allows a greater chance for success in reaching your chastity goal.
Benefits of Long-term Chastity
There are many benefits to long-term chastity. Probably the biggest benefit, particularly if you are a chronic masturbator, is that it takes the focus off of sex and masturbation and allows you to focus on more important things like work and being a better lover, among many others.
During long-term lock-up and denial, many emotions- some never experienced before- occur. It causes you to really take a look at yourself, your situation, and how you can better both. You may fantasize about certain things you’ve never fantasized about before. You may feel the desire to pursue some of these fantasies and then find out you really enjoy them, though you would’ve never even given them a second thought prior to being locked up.
Being in chastity as a submissive causes you to be more obedient and more willing to explore and expand previous boundaries. As a Mistress, I love having chastity pets because I love seeing the evolution of thoughts and emotions, as well as, the extra attentiveness and desire to please that goes along with it. Submissives are much more obedient and attentive when locked up.
Are You Ready to Give it a Try?
Have I convinced you to get locked up for the first time or to be locked up again, if it has been a while? Maybe you’re curious enough to be thinking about it but have a few more questions before deciding for sure. Give me a call and we can discuss all of these things, decide whether chastity is right for you, and if it is, come up with a plan.
It is worth noting that if you are already a chastity enthusiast and looking for a key holder that I don’t actually hold keys but, there is now a virtual option available. The Cell Mate device can be locked and unlocked via the internet, allowing me to be a virtual key holder.
If you have been locked up before but need the accountability of having a physical key holder, perhaps you should look into getting a device with the internet-controlled lock.
In addition to virtual key holding, I also control your E-stim devices, butt plugs, cock rings, and vibrators via the internet. Learn more about internet-controlled sex toys. Purchase the internet-controlled sex toy package standalone or paired with some of my other assignment packages from PhoneSexAssignments.com.
There you have it, pets- reasons YOU need chastity!
Masturbation May Blog Train
This is the last post in the 2020 Masturbation May Blog Train. If you missed any posts or have not followed the blog train, you can start by reading the first post here: Welcome to the 2020 Masturbation May Blog Train.
Until next time~
My clitty is some where an innie or 1/4 of an inch chastity device flat Eunuch style and soy feminization have made me this way . It’s way more to find to suck cock in panties and chastity devise . So I need chastity because I need s cock to suck.
Chastity feels so good.I have the Eunuch style flat cage. Sitting to go like a girl feels amazing looking down there and seeing nothing is so hmmm wonderful?🤔😝
Ms Hunter, this is an informative blog. I guess I’ll have to contact you if/when I’m ready to take the plunge and have you lock me in (permanent??) chastity as in our scenarios.
I have been told by women in chat on internet that I should be in chastity because of my tiny clitty. I agree and am searching for the right device. I recently watched a video on the humiliation of self imposed chastity. She laughed how pathetic it is that can’t even find a woman to put them in chastity of course anybody would put someone in chastity if paid.. I will just have to do it myself However I am considering broaching the subject with some women
I’m so glad that I’ve tried chastity. As you mentioned it really opened me up to expanding boundaries as well as concentrating on other aspects of life (health).. plus the thought of a dominant woman making my adequate weenus limp and useless is a major turn on. Thank you for writing this Ms. Hunter!
Ha, yes wessypoo! You are living proof! …and I think you meant “inadequate little weenus” hahahahahaha
I have worn a pink locking leather penis restraint . I have an itty bitty. Clitty & am totally willing to be caged while i am being pegged if ever i can find someone to peg me
.
Perfect! Chastity and pegging are the best combination, ever!
I have never done chastity Empress Hunter. I am to small to fit into a device anyway. I never think of sex as i know i can never please a women anyway. i am not a chronic masturbator. So the only reason for chastity would be to have a virgin locked in chastity.
Hahahaha, yes you are too small. I still have the champagne cork cage on my desk from years ago with your name on it!! Poor tiny tim. Too tiny for a chastity cage!
Ms Hunter!
What a great post on Chastity, and really what talk about Masturbation would be complete without mentioning its antithesis! Brilliant, simply brilliant! Thank you Ms Hunter, see you around the Empire
Thank you, Ms. Erika! I just figured after 30 days of pretty much free-for-all masturbation, it would be appropriate to put on the brakes a bit and discover how much excitement chastity can also be.
What a great post! So much good information! I would add a couple of points as someone who has been locked for a very long time…..
When buying a cage….smaller is better! Not the ring around the balls…but the cage. it should be measure to your smallest flaccid size….Allowing ANY growth at all just makes it more painful
Use lotion daily or more to the ring around your sack….it makes it much more comfy and get rid of that uncomfortable rubbing and chaffing.
And go metal if you can afford it ( i like mature metal cages) and have a plastic one for travel or events with metal detectors.
Oh and …..if used long term…Shrinkage is real!
Since being locked, i have come to a greater understanding of my sissy cuckold denied place. I have been able to embrace that place and find a more perfect submission and adoration for Women.
I also have much more admiration for Real Men and their cocks. I am daily amazed at how different they are than me and puzzled at why it took me so long to see it…and admit it. I also feel apologetic and with deep regret for every woman i annoyed and disappointed with my useless clitty/penis
I have embraced being pussy free and denied in chastity!
Thank you!
These are terrific tips, princess! Thank you for sharing your experience and suggestions!
Oh, i wanna try the Cell Mate! Does it actually go around my little paystick or is just a safe that holds the key? i luv how the technology and devices are constantly improving. When i first started experimenting with male chastity in 2007, there were no such things available. i remember my first device… some leather contraption called the Stallion Guard, i believe. . *lmao*. Now i luv my Queen’s Keep by Mature Metal, and if i have a need for plastic, the “nub” by Holy Trainer is my other go-to. Fun!
It is for you to wear, yes. You are right, chastity devices have certainly come a long way in the last few years!
Hello Mistress Hunter. I really enjoyed reading your insights on chastity. I’m not sure if I love chastity or hate it (maybe both simultaneously?) Still, my own experiences match a lot of what you say. A few hours the first time seemed like a horrible torturous eternity! “I’ll never learn to go longer!” I thought in despair. But I did work up to longer and longer periods of chastity, and the longer you go the more my fantasies run wild, including strong fantasies I would never have entertained in 1,000 years of no chastity. It is a very emasculating experience, and it sometimes comes with many emotions. It’s an interesting experience for sure, and not one I would have pushed myself to experience very much without a Mistress to guide me.
Very well said, Andre. I think most have a love/hate relationship with chastity and the overwhelming emotions and fantasies they never in a million years thought they’d have are both exciting and terrifying.
Thank you Mistress Hunter.
I was really shocked to discover just how much my emotions and even my sense of self worth and masculinity are tied to having a dick and having erections when I experienced chastity. I think a lot of men would be humbled to discover that about themselves.
Very true, Andre. This is precisely why I believe every man should try chastity (more than just a few hours) at least once in their lives. It gives you a whole new perspective on things!