Erotic humiliation. Why is humiliation so damn exciting for some of us while for others of us being humiliated is far from exciting? This is a very good question and one where there is no absolutely definitive answer but I’m going to attempt to bring at least a little bit of insight to the topic.
Let’s take a look at a bit of the psychology behind erotic humiliation and see what we can find.
Erotic Humiliation: The Pleasure-Pain Principle
Sigmund Freud suggests in his Pleasure-Pain Principle that people will intentionally seek out that which pleases them and avoid that which causes pain. It is likely true that we are born with this tendency but it doesn’t take into consideration environmental factors which can completely skew this principle.
We can be conditioned to seek out pain and/or humiliation because it feels pleasurable to us. How does that happen? Well, there is no single explanation for how this happens but there are many possibilities that could cause this to happen. One of the things I hear often from those who have small penises and enjoy small penis humiliation, is that they knew early on they weren’t of adequate size to please a woman with their dicks.
Knowing women weren’t going to be excited to see their itty bitty, they began to realize that they could still get that female attention they crave by having them laugh and make fun of their tiny dicklets. Just getting that dedicated female attention- even if it was humiliating- was so exciting, it made you excited and hard. Little by little, that laughter and humiliation becomes more sexually exciting and before they know it, they’re intentionally seeking out erotic humiliation.
Typically, at first, it just takes a smile or a giggle at that tiny member to get them off but over time, it takes more and more of that erotic humiliation to get excited to the point of orgasm. The next thing they know, they are so far down the erotic humiliation rabbit hole, they don’t even remember how they got there.
How Can Humiliation be Erotic?
“How can humiliation be erotic?” I get this question a lot from those who can’t understand why people would not only subject themselves to humiliation but actually get off on it. I talked a little about the conditioning that can cause this to happen but there is something else that can cause humiliation to become erotic, as well.
The part of the brain that processes pleasure is adjacent to the part of the brain that processes pain. Because of this, intense pleasure can cause pain and intense pain (both physical and emotional pain) can cause pleasure. Just as many guys have told me prostate orgasms are so intensely pleasurable they can sometimes be painful, many have shared with me that an event that happened during their formative years was so intensely humiliating they experienced erotic excitement from it.
At first, they may not understand why something so humiliating and emotionally painful can excite them so much and experience feelings of guilt that they enjoyed the experience and discovered erotic humiliation. Over time, they begin to realize they need this humiliation in order to get sexually excited enough to achieve orgasm and, eventually, the type of humiliation they crave evolves into areas they never before believed they would find exciting.
Types of Erotic Humiliation
Erotic Humiliation is intrinsic to most fetishes whether it is implied or overt. Some can’t bring themselves to see or admit that humiliation part of their fetish, though somewhere down deep, they probably do realize it and just can’t admit it out loud. Others crave overt humiliation- the meaner the better. Some never evolve into craving deeper humiliation but do enjoy the implied humiliation that accompanies their particular fetish.
Others crave and seek out intense erotic humiliation as their main goal. Often times, there is a specific type of humiliation that excites them, such as small penis humiliation, verbal humiliation, public humiliation, etc., but usually those who crave intense erotic humiliation enjoy being humiliated in a variety of ways.
Do You Enjoy Overt Humiliation, Implied Humiliation, or Both?
What is your particular brand of humiliation? Do you enjoy more subtle, implied humiliation or you of the “the more humiliating the better” mindset? I enjoy doling out both types of humiliation and I especially enjoy helping you understand the psychology of erotic humiliation and taking you on a humiliation journey you’ll never forget!
Until next time, pets~
Your Intelligent Fantasies Mistress
Yes, I understood the why of it and that it is not your fault it’s the way the blog is set up. The stupid part is THEY defaulted it that way instead of comments swinging back the other way BEFORE they get strung out and unreadable. Doesn’t anyone check these things anymore?
Frickin’ WordPress!
HEY! What the fuck happened to my last comment here? It’s so strung out you can’t even read it! Can you fix it Ms Hunter?
It’s like that because there are so many replies to replies on your original comment… the comments are set to indent the previous comment so you can tell they are replies instead of just new comments. I took that off but may have to put it back on if it becomes to o difficult to figure out which replies go with which comments.
I like it all Mistress Hunter as you know!
It often has to do with my mood as to whether I want the more subtle erotic humiliation, a more direct overt meaner-the-better humiliation or somewhere in between.
The best is a mix in one session. I love being kept off balance by my mistress. She (you) may start out âniceâ with erotic playful humiliation, soft giggles or laughter then suddenly shift gears and just dump on me, get meaner, stricter and even cruel, really working me over then, amused by how much fun it is dial it back again and just laugh, make little comments about how easy and obedient I am just give me little humiliating tasks to do with my own cum, slow and deliberate, that subtle erotic humiliation.
That would describe the session with you and Mistress Claire perfectly.
I especially LOVED when you two were talking to each other about me, right in front of me, leaving me out of any decisions or say in the matter!
And YOU telling Ms Claire everything about me, totally ambushing me was so intensely exciting!
You know I loved you for THAT! A long-time Mistress giving a new one the FULL RUN-DOWN on me was the best humiliation!
I will want you to do that to me again sometime.
I have called you for so long that you know everything about me so being shown off by you, having to do everything you say in front of a new Mistress like your own personal little windup toy is sooooo erotically humiliating I love it!
Haha… yes, my spoon-fed cum eater… that session with Ms. Claire was sooooo much fun! And, yes I love sharing all your dirty little secrets with a new Mistress and discussing what we’re going to have you do like you aren’t even there! I agree that the best sessions are with a mix of sensual and strict all in one! Can’t wait to show you off to another new Mistress soon!! And…. have you read about the dice game on my cumeatingfantasies.com blog? I can’t believe you haven’t been chomping at the bit to do this game with me!
I am sooooo glad you and Ms. Claire had your fun with me! I know my place is as a CUM Play Toy so all your wonderful mistresses can do whatever you like with me! I am meant to have all my dirty secrets shared live on cam from seasoned Mistress to new Mistress so they can see and discuss and learn the best way to play and have their fun with me. It’s what I am for! I KNOW THAT!!!
Yes, you are great at discussing with them like I’m not even there! Then you direct, take pictures and video, telling them everything then showing them everything!
You truly are a Master Mistress Empress Hunter!
Oh yes! There are 8 or 9 new Mistresses. I wonder which one YOU would choose to show off your Cum Eating Windup Toy to?!!!
Oh NO! I have not seen your cumeatingfantasies.com blog for a while! The link on this blog disappeared and with blogs largely ignored by most Mistresses these days I don’t visit them like I used to. I thought it was discontinued.
Oh dear! I shall have to get over there and see this dice game is you speak of!!!
Game?… a game for you no doubt and one I will have no choice in!!!
Oh, you absolutely SHOULD go over there. I’ve got many posts scheduled and ready to go, some of them even refer to you- not by name- well sort of by name, spoon fed cum eater, but you’ll love reading all about it!!
Oh! Yay! Going there now…
…whew!!!! ok! left a couple comments on posts!
I can’t wait to read some of the scheduled posts you have especially when you mention me, Your Spoon-Fed CUM Eater!
Just so everybody is clear on this I need to say it out loud publicly:
I AM Ms. Hunter’s Spoon-Fed CUM Eater!
I am ALSO her CUM-on-the-Floor Licker!
Ha! I’m pretty sure from all your comments, they know it’s you! Pretty much all the Mistresses certainly do!! đ
You just keep giving me better and better news!
Oh wait , “Pretty much all…” that’s not ALL!
OK, so let’s fix this.
So, for the rest that DON’T KNOW:
I AM Ms. Hunterâs Spoon-Fed CUM Eater!
I am ALSO her CUM-on-the-Floor Licker!
oh,
and Ms Hunter did it ALL TO ME because she has the power.
AND
we both like it that way and I LOVE it that way!
That should do it.
“One of the things I hear often from those who have small penises and enjoy small penis humiliation, is that they knew early on they werenât of adequate size to please a woman with their dicks…The next thing they know, they are so far down the erotic humiliation rabbit hole, they donât even remember how they got there.”
Truer words never spoken, Mistress Hunter. Having a small penis is the ultimate, eternal humiliation.
“Having a small penis is the ultimate, eternal humiliation.” That it is, peewee. That it is. đ
Your blog topic is interesting and I had not seen anyone distinguish between implied vs. overt humiliation before. I realize that resonates (deeply) in me. I have always gotten nervous/anxious when girls or women (even if they do it very casually) say anything about penis size – no matter how indirect it is. It does not have to have anything to do with me directly but if two women say something to one another or worse (totally scary) is if two or more women say something. I get this “fear thing” that I think has to do with the idea that the “conversation” could turn to me or the evaluation could turn to me. It almost does not matter what they are saying specifically – it could be disparaging about some not so endowed fellow or (and this is almost worse) if they are speaking about a guy they feel is nicely endowed. I have come to realize that while I am nervous/scared (almost like cannot speak) I also strongly want to hear what they are saying. I think it is the “subtle stuff” that hits me strongest. I also think the more “odd” the situation is the stronger my reaction – I once heard a mother say something to her daughter related to “nicer level” male endowment. It blew me away that such a “proper seeming” lady was so open with her daughter. Both were adults at the time though.
Glad you enjoyed reading about it! Yes, everything you describe is quite common with regards to erotic humiliation.
Ms Hunter this was such great read and one I know Iâll be reading again and again. My finally admitting that I craved all forms of erotic humiliation has me evolving into other interest.. I donât know if I can or want to orgasm any other way but being humiliatedâŚ.
Ahhhh… classic journey right down that humiliation rabbit hole!
Very good post Mistress Hunter. I actually enjoy all forms of humiliation. There are two that might be a little different. I truly enjoy loser humiliation because i know that i am a loser in every way. In terms of psychology of humiliation here could be a reason i like it. I have always known that i don’t measure up to the rest of society in every way. Even with the males because of having a little pee-pee. So i think that creates humiliation and even low esteem for me.
The thing i find most humiliating of all is doing an ignore call. I find that to be the case because that means i am not worthy of being spoken to or being able to talk to a Mistress.
I tend to like ignore calls now because i discovered i was a boring person to talk to.
Very intelligent post Mistress Hunter. This is was makes LDW so great is that all of ladies here are so intelligent.
Ha! About time you realize you deserve ignore calls and that in addition to being a loser in every other way, you are a very boring person to talk to!!
So glad you find it funny about ignore calls. Besides me have you ever talked to any ever boring person.??? Goddess Erika even yawned once on a session with me. Hopefully we can do another 2 Mistress call soon with You and Goddess Erika. It has to be an ignore one though.
Thanks for the champagne cork as my chastity cage. Very humiliating.
Haha! Love it! Yes, we should do that soon… the only thing more fun than ignoring a loser like you is ignoring a loser like you while talking to Ms. Erika!