Let’s talk about JOI and ruined orgasms.  We have all had unintentional ruined orgasms but have you ever intentionally ruined an orgasm? If not, why??  If you have, what did you enjoy about it?

JOI and Ruined Orgasms are a Perfect Pair

A lot of my callers enjoy JOI and I enjoy giving jerk-off instructions but I am always surprised at the number of callers who have never experienced intentional ruined orgasms.  When I ask about it, the answer I usually get is “that is not for me, I want to enjoy a full orgasm” but those who are set in that mentality are missing out on something amazing and they don’t even know it. 

Intentional ruined orgasms are often associated with the D/s dynamic, a manifestation of control and power exchange. This can definitely be true but some savvy masturbators, edgers, and gooners have learned that ruined orgasms can make for a more pleasurable orgasms in the long run, intentionally ruining orgasms on their own, as well as with their Mistress.

There are a few reasons experiencing intentional ruined orgasms can be good for you but before we look at those, let’s take a look at the definition of a ruined orgasm.  A ruined orgasm, also known as a partial orgasm is when something interrupts the orgasmic intensity right at the crucial point of no return, causing only a partial release. There is a small sense of momentary relief before the frustration and overwhelming desire for a full orgasm sets in. 

Those of you who call me regularly know I enjoy ruining orgasms but do you know why I enjoy it? Well, first, there is the obvious- I enjoy the power and control. I enjoy edging you and guiding your masturbation until you are so frustrated you say you’ll do anything if I will let you cum. Boom! As soon as I hear anything, my mind immediately goes to ruined orgasms.

Ways to Ruin Orgasms

There are a few common methods for ruining orgasms. Some methods require more self-control and patience than other methods and what works for one person may not work for another. I encourage you to try each method just to see how it works for you because though the goal for each is a ruined orgasm, even ruined orgasms can feel different depending on the method used to ruined them.

Here are a few common ruined orgasm methods:

• Abandonment  – This is the easiest and most common method for ruining orgasms. Most of us have experienced unintentional ruined orgasms through abandonment. Perhaps your cock slipped out at the precise moment of orgasm or someone walked into the room when you were masturbating and just ready to cum. These were obviously not by choice so the big question is, do you have the self-control to take your hand away right as that orgasm begins?
• Thwacking – This method of ruining orgasm takes quite a bit of self-control and can be painful so it isn’t for the faint of heart. Thwacking means smacking the underside of the cock very hard just as you are getting to the point of orgasm.  Sometimes it requires multiple hard smacks so you must enjoy cbt and/or be a bit of a pain slut in order to successfully carry out this ruined orgasm method.
• Scrunching – This ruined orgasm method involves squeezing just the tip and upper portion of the cock quite tightly to keep ejaculate from escaping. The firm squeezing must continue until the orgasmic feeling completely passes.
• Squelching – This is one of the easiest and most common methods of ruining orgasm. It involves squeezing the base of the penis very tightly in order to keep the cum from rising up into the shaft and not releasing until the pressure is gone.
• Thumbing – This ruined orgasm method takes quite a bit of self control and does not work for everybody. To ruin your orgasm by thumbing, you place your thumb over the hole and apply a great deal of pressure right as the orgasm is ready to occur. The idea is to trap the cum in the shaft and keep it from escaping but the execution of this method often fails. For this reason, though I do recommend trying it at least once to see what it’s like, it is not one of my go-to ruined orgasm methods.

JOI and My Choice of Ruined Orgasm Method

As mentioned above, I enjoy not only ruining your orgasms but choosing the method with which to ruin it. To me, dictating the ruined orgasm method is a jerk-off instruction no different than telling you how to stroke it. Cock control and ruined orgasms go together in my book! If the choice of whether or not you get to orgasm is left up to me- and I believe it should be- a ruined orgasm is often my choice. I also enjoy stipulating you must eat any cum that happens to escape during that ruined orgasm.

This stipulation often results in the caller having more self-control than he usually would simply because he does not want to have to eat any cum. That isn’t always the case, though. Some callers enjoy eating their cum so this is a bit of a reward for them for ruining their orgasm. Either way, I very much enjoy guided masturbation and ruining orgasms and believe everyone should experience an intentional ruined orgasm at least once!

Are you a ruined orgasm enthusiast? If so, what’s your favorite way to ruin your orgasm? Have you never tried ruining your orgasm before? If not, give me a call, and let’s ruin that orgasm!

Until next time~

Your Intelligent Fantasies Mistress