Much has been written about sub space and sub drop. Dom space and Dom drop are just as real but aren’t talked about as much. I suppose we hear more about Dom space than we do Dom drop and I’m not exactly sure why that is. Is it because Doms are afraid they might appear weak if they admit to experiencing the drop? Maybe. Whatever the reason it hasn’t been previously discussed much, I’d like to talk about it now.

Discussing Dom Space and Dom Drop with your Mistress

Have you ever discussed Dom space and Dom drop with your Mistress? For that matter, have you talked about your own sub space and sub drop with her? Both situations for both the Dominant and the submissive are very real and the higher the high during the scene, the lower the drop after so it’s important to have conversation surrounding it; both before and after a scene.

Even if it isn’t something you brought up yourself, I’m sure your phone Mistress asks you about how you felt during a scene and talks about what you liked and didn’t like along with how you are feeling after. You should do the same for her. Not in a steamroller 3rd-degree kind of way but in a genuinely curious or concerned way. The most important thing is to listen and ask what you can do to help support her in the way of aftercare. Never assume you know what she wants or needs, always ask!

The Distance D/s Relationship

The power exchange dynamic can be just as real in a distance domination as it is for an in-person D/s relationship. The emotions experienced can be just as intense; the highest of highs and the lowest of lows. That said, by the nature of your proximity to one another, there are differences. It can be more difficult to gauge each other’s energy levels and you can’t read each others’ body language like you can in person just to name a few.

This is why open and honest communication from both parties in distance domination is more important than ever. Discussion prior to the session, check-ins during the session, and discussion after the session are a must. Don’t be afraid to talk about anything with your Mistress; even the difficult topics. Open and honest communication about each other’s needs and expectations, about what will and won’t happen during any given session, and discussion of likes and dislikes- especially the dislikes is the foundation to any good D/s relationship, whether in-person on via the telephone.

Top Drop: Aftercare for your Femdom

If you haven’t already talked about Domme drop with your Mistress, you should ask her about it; whether she’s experienced it, how often she experiences it, what it’s like for her after a particularly intense session, what you can do to support her in the way of aftercare after each session going forward. Every Femdom is different just as every submissive is different so it’s important to really learn how these things affect your Mistress and how you can help.

It’s possible your Femdom Mistress may be hesitant to discuss Dom drop. If she’d rather not discuss it, let her know that’s okay too, but asking her about it will at least let her know you are thinking of her and concerned about her needs. If this is the case, respect whatever she tells you and don’t pry. She will appreciate your concern and more importantly, your respect.

There you have it, pets; food for thought on the topic of Dom space and Dom drop. Have you given much thought to those before? Discussed it with your Mistress? Provided aftercare for her? Drop a comment and let’s discuss it!

Until next time~

Your Intelligent Fantasies Mistress